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The feeling is similar whether it's source is from a break up, death, being bullied, etc. When you've been hurt terribly, most people feel that there is no meaning to life anymore and all they want to do is cry and wallow in self pity. Nothing is wrong with that! Crying is a way to express your sadness. I feel that it is a much more healthier option than keeping your feelings inside of you. Doing so will only result in accumulation of pain and slow suffering. Also, ignore the insincere acquaintences who come up and ask you what's the matter and tell you that everything will be fine.

I would like to stress more about being hurt after a break up as i have noticed quite a number of couples i know have recently done so.

1. Firstly, avoid your ex at all costs. It is definitely NORMAL to have the desire to stay close with him/her at first no matter how much it hurts. Seeing your ex will only bring up emotions and cause you to do things which you might regret in the future.

2. Let it all out, just pour your feelings out. Cry as much as you want. Express yourself, it would definitely make you feel better. I advice you to cry in a private/secluded area to avoid nosy individuals who would only question you and make you feel worse.

3. Talk it out with people( family and friends). Those who have experienced this might give you useful advice and also enable you to view this matter in a more positive way. Just tell them how you feel and why you feel that way. Keeping everything inside will only accumulate the bitterness.

4. It is normal to think about your ex's good traits, and how unlucky you are to lose him/her. That's not how it should be. Run through all the things he/she did to hurt you, annoy you, drive you crazy. Do it over and over again, constantly remind yourself that you former lover was not perfect and that he/she is not your loss for someone who loves you would never go the extra mile to constantly ensure you are depressed, drained, exhausted,angry.

5. Remove all items that remind you of pleasant memories with your ex from sight. Give them away, throw them out, place them in a box. These items will not do you justice! They will only cause more pain and regret. Make good use of these items, donate them to charity or sell them and make good use of the profit to help others.

6. Lastly, keep yourself busy. Fill your time with doing something you're passionate about. Doing things which enhances your mood such as listening to music, reading, and so on will also help ease the pain.

It is very hard to mend a broken heart, especially when everything you did revolved around that special person, but time will definitely heal. It is true for I, who have experienced this pain as well am now telling you that time will heal your sorrows, not completely i admit, but mend your wound, and only leave a small scar behind. With more time, that scar will fade off and a new beginning will await you.

Here are some positive quotes that might be useful:

1. Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they've been betrayed, to those who still love even though they've been hurt before (unknown)

2. All you need is love but a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt. (Charles M. Shulz)

3. We are more oftened frightened than hurt, and we suffer from imagination than reality( Seneca)

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